You don’t owe it to anyone to play the role they’ve assigned you – as that’s how you make yourself stressed and upset, as well as creating a world full of chaos for yourself. You were born with an internal guidance system, which feeds you unique and customized ideas and dreams for living – including who you want to be and what you want to do with your time here.
When you defer to other people, no matter how good your or their intentions, you will ALWAYS lose. because their desires are NEVER going to be 100% congruent with your vision. How do I know? Because even in the best of circumstances, when people are “on the same page”, there are still differences of opinion… and someone ends up winning and the other ends up losing. or both lose a bit in a compromise. And if you have a narcissist, a sociopath, or some other kind of predator calling the shots in your movie, you better watch out… because they are the wolf, and you are the sheep, and they are NOT about to take mercy on your soul.
So if you’re struggling to claim your identity, remind yourself of this…
Most people are so messed up, they don’t even know who they are… let alone being able to tell you who you should be. so rather than defer your life to someone determined to define you by what best suits them, turn in to your intuition… and follow what it says – regardless of who is bothered by it.