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Make Peace with Your Past

I know if it was something as easy as flipping on a switch, you probably would have already made peace with your past experiences. But, the longer you hold on to the abuse, the longer it, and your abuser, will have power over you. In order to move on you must forgive yourself for what you didn’t know then. And release any self-blame you may be holding onto. You must learn to value and take care of you, like the worthy human you were born as. Because if you don’t, you leave yourself open for more abuse to show up in your life experience. You must learn to set, and enforce, healthy boundaries that support your best and highest good. As this is a demonstration that you love and value you, and teaches others to respect you too. And you must learn that your abuser was a teacher, here to…

Note to a Survivor

hi there ~ yeah you. i know you’ve been through a lot. and you’re wishing it would all just stop. but i want to remind you, those who have higher callings, tend to have more challenges. whether you’ve been abused, addicted, or found yourself in some otherwise toxic situation, you have to know you’re strong enough to face it. remember, everything is figureoutable – you just have to be patient. don’t rush things. each person is a teacher. each experience, a lesson. and you are student of life. so be kind to it, and yourself. and make sure to pay attention.

Grey Rock Method

Several members of my “Heal The Hurt” Facebook support group have contacted me recently telling me that they’re either living with, married to, or raising children with their abuser, and that going “No Contact” is not an option for them at this time.  And while going no contact is always the best option to heal from a toxic relationship, as it not only keeps you from further abuse, but it also allows your body to release the toxicity that you have been exposed to, there is another option you can use to minimize the negative effect your abuser is having on you. And knowing that several of my readers here are also going through the same kinds of issues, I thought I would share that option here as well… It’s called going “Grey Rock.”  The Grey Rock Method is a technique that allows you to reduce the amount of toxic…

You Don’t Have to Set Yourself on Fire

You Don’t Have to Set Yourself on Fire to Keep the Other Person Warm ~ M One of the biggest reasons your abuser chose you as their ‘target partner’, is because they perceived you to be a kind, generous, and selfless person.  But, unlike a “normal” person, they weren’t looking for these qualities because they also have them, and want a partner who will appreciate and share them. Oh no… A serial abuser is looking for these qualities in a target so that they can later exploit them, when they’re doing things they know they shouldn’t. They don’t want to have to make an effort to “fix things” with a take-no-crap, kind of person, as that would be too much trouble.  No, they want someone more easy going and empathic, so that after they’ve neglected, lied to, or cheated on them, they won’t have to put in much effort to…

The Sad Truth about being with a Narcissist

Narcissistic Personality Disorder SUCKS! It’s the kind of disease that not only effects the host, but can completely destroy almost anyone who tries to love them. It’s also a covert disease, as it can be very hard to identify, unless you get extremely close to the person who has it. And, by the time you’re in that deep, they’ve usually already identified you as “narc supply”, and unless you jump ship at the first yellow or red flag, you are in for a bumpy ride.   And, don’t think just because you broke it off, because they weren’t treating you right, that they’re just going to let you go. Oh no! They’ll do things like claim they’ve been diagnosed with a “disease” (like cancer or diabetes), or that they want to put your kid on their sports team, to pull on your heart strings, and keep you in their life.…